Hi all,
(This letter is being sent to previous students of mine in the past 2 years, as part of a series I started when UWB first went into lockdown. An archive of previous emails can be found on my website.)
Ok, so um. I guess you know why I’m writing. Every time something really huge happens that causes me to worry about our collective mental health, I feel compelled to write you all. So, first, I just want you to know that no matter what side of the aisle you were on, I care about you and yours. If you need anyone to just chat with or share cat memes, I’m always here. The path forward is to work together, to collectively remember that there aren’t winners and losers but a whole bunch of people trying to live together.
I’ve been thinking of what to say so let me just ramble a bit, okay? In no particular order:
I think this email list will become a once-quarterly thing for the next four years. That means I’ll try to write to you all 16 times during the next four years. I have no idea if I’ll be able to keep to that schedule, but that’s what I think is going to happen. I bet things will happen that’ll compel me to write so the actual schedule might be irregular, depending on world events.
Speaking of, I’m afraid of world politics. I worry about Taiwan and China now. I’ve got heightened anxiety about Ukraine and Palestine. I cannot see things improving due to our recent election. I’m not sure what to do about that. I also worry that the rest of the world will try to adjust by figuring out how to manipulate a narcissist with nuclear weapons to their favor.
I’m also afraid for marginalized populations in this country, minorities by race, sexual/gender identity or orientation, women, and the intersections of all the above. I’m worried about the working class and those with disabilities. I’m worried about a lot of things, and I’m worried about younger generations and whether they’ll inherit anything but a burning husk of a land. It seems completely alarming to me that half the country seems okay with dehumanizing anyone who isn’t like them. That is not the American dream and no way to strive for peace.
I feel like we need to remind everyone that we believe in justice and doing right by all groups of people and that it isn’t at the expense of some other group of people. This beatdown of others is a direct result of our failed media ecology, I believe. where people are too insular and not given chances to learn about other cultures and ways of being. Instead, we’re being misled by a self-reinforcing propaganda machine that tells us anyone different is not deserving of health, safety, and happiness. It’s just bonkers.
What to do about it all? I want each email to include at least one way to help, even if it’s just me reminding you that you have agency in your local actions at the very least. You can help friends and family, and you can help organizations and movements, and you can help yourself. You might not have the energy for all of that; just do what you can. It’s all anyone can and should expect. You can continue to grow and learn and strive to be the best version of yourself, but it could take time to get there, and that’s okay.
I also want to identify possible issues with our culture and society, to have all of us use our degrees and big brains and figure out how to improve things in an agentive way. If the media failed us, what can we do about it? If white male privilege is the underlying cause*, what can be done about it? If it’s all late-stage capitalism, what can be done about it?
But, as you can see, I don’t know the answers for how best to proceed. I want us to brainstorm that, too. I’m thinking of just starting a discord server or a google doc/folder for resources or something. Would that be helpful?
For, now, I want you to check in on your friends and loved ones and make sure no one is in acute distress at least. Share music. Give each other (irl and virtual) hugs. And realize that sometimes you can’t help, which I know is very, very hard to do sometimes, too. I had to learn this again last month when someone accused me of not caring enough and pushed me away. All you can do is not take it personally and move onto someone else who needs help, too.
So, anyway, this email list is primarily comprised of former students. My filter was if you were a peer facilitator, were in the IMD program, or had ever emailed me saying you appreciated these emails. After this one, I’ll delete everyone else. And if you are one of the above and want off, just let me know. As I move forward, I think I’ll open the list up to other people now, too, so if you know someone who wants to be on it, let me know.
I’ll end with these quotes:
“Why be a star when you can make a constellation?” – Octavia Butler
“Do not do to others what is disgusting to you. This is justice, in brief.” – The Mahabharata
“The challenge is not to be perfect… it’s to be whole.” – Jane Fonda
Love,
mark
discord: mcdanger
*Can’t find it now, but I read a tweet that surmised that there are whole swaths of people in this country who want to perpetuate white privilege even if they don’t realize that’s their underlying motivation. The tweet suggested that the reason they support Trump is because they see that if a white man can get away with misogyny, with hatred, with being a convicted felon, with racial slurs, with all of that… it’s because maybe being a white man is still a privilege that cannot be dismantled and it comforts them.